We all have that one friend who’s legendary for his 1,000-volume porn library or her entire bureau full of multi-functional, high-performance sex toys.

For that friend, collecting sexual accessories is a hobby. For almost everyone else, it’s intimidating and potentially expensive. Also truly unnecessary in my opinion. My top 10 nightstand must-haves are versatile, widely available and cost under $10 each. Ready to play?

Stockings
Much more than a simple undergarment, stockings are a blindfold, an erotic gag and a surprisingly strong restraint for those of you with headboards and/or four-posters and BDSM tastes. Black silk from Wolford are my favorite, though Victoria’s Secret, La Senza or, hell, even department store generics will work just as well. Go for elastic-topped thigh-highs instead of tights-style…you get two separate garments without the unsightly control-top waist. Add a pair of sexy heels and presto! You have a naughty burlesque costume just waiting for your favorite private dancer.

“Handcuffs are so played. Plus they’re not flexible, and you can’t do much with them. Stockings are much better. They’re strong, they’re stretchy, they’re resilient. And they’re sexy, you know?” — Sarah, 28

Peacock Feather
Tickle tickle. Check and see just how sensitive your partner is — or rather how sensitive you can make them — by wielding this innocent-looking torture instrument in just the right way. For best results, combine with stockings (as blindfold). Many different kinds of feathers will work but we prefer the peacock variety because they’re beautiful, easy to locate, inexpensive and…well… the name is suggestive.

Votive Candles
Inexpensive and easy to find (Wal-Mart, Ikea, even your local drugstore), votive candles are the thinking man’s fallback mood enhancer; a dozen tiny rainbow-colored candles, glowing gently from every corner, can turn any room into a temple of lurrrve. Women also love votives because candlelight is so much more forgiving than electric lighting yet so much sexier than total darkness.

“Nothing says romance like candlelight… and the more candles you have, the more romance, right?” — Josh, 37

Ice Water
Extremely important. For when you get dehydrated from all that high-impact porn-style positioning… when it’s 90 degrees in the room and you need to wet down and cool off (which, ironically, usually only serves to heat things up even further)…when you’ve just swallowed and need to chase the taste off the back of your throat… ice water is your best friend.

PLUS. Can I talk about the ice itself for a second? Endless possibilities for the adventurous perv. Start with an ice cube on the nipples or teasing gently around your partner’s genitals or crunched up in your mouth while you’re giving oral sex… Oh. My. Goodness. We have a winner! Try it tonight — you’ll thank me.

Lube
Some people aren’t comfortable using lube because they think it implies that they can’t work up enough gushiness on their own. Wrong! Yes, the woman should be wet — that’s how you know she’s aroused, as we are all taught in Lovemaking 101. But a little extra wetness can work wonders either in the beginning, to assist your finger-and-tongue explorations, or mid-session, to make things smoother when natural lubricants can dry out. Finally, you should NEVER even TRY to have anal sex without copious quantities of lube, unless you’re trying to punish both yourself and your partner. Seriously. Ouch.

“A quality lube or lotion is great for a massage to get her all worked up. It’s great when you’re actually getting it. And if she leaves (or falls asleep) before closing the deal, it can help you, um, get yourself there, if you catch my meaning.” — Garrett, 31

Camera
Point. Click. You’re so dirty. Point. Click. You’re the hottest ticket ever. OK, maybe your money-shot doesn’t look quite like Penthouse but do you honestly think that matters? Hell no. This is not about the end product but the act itself — the confidence it takes to allow someone to photograph you in the buff and the libido-fueling knowledge that you are, in fact, an amateur porn star. If you’re really not comfortable with the existence of a public record of your own nastiness… well, use your own camera and erase everything immediately. If you’re not overly paranoid (and you shouldn’t be because everyone does this and unless you’re Pam Anderson, nobody cares), keep the pics and let them inspire you and your partner to even hornier heights in the near future.

One Dirty Book
I think any bona fide hedonist should have an entire library of dirty books — erotic fiction, how-to manuals, manga, even the Kama Sutra and a couple of back issues of Cosmo. But if you were stranded on a dirty desert island with only ONE smut book for company, go with a recommendation from the experts at Hollywood’s famous Circus of Books:

“The ones that really stand out are How to Have a XXX Sex Life, by Jenna Jameson and the Vivid Video girls — lots of studio pictures to augment the text — and, in the erotic fiction department, Sexually Satisfied, the explicit account of a struggling actress’ sexual awakening.” — David, Circus of Books

Wet Wipes
Perhaps the most underappreciated thing in the nightstand arsenal. So compact, so convenient, so much easier than running off to the bathroom to get a washcloth post-explosion. And. There’s nothing that earns better Geisha Girl (or Sensual Man) brownie points than sweetly, gently cleaning up your lover’s, um, area as they lay there buzzing, half passed out in post-coital bliss.

“Nobody likes sticky fingers and no trip to the washroom, no matter how quick, is ever quick enough. Pre-moistened cloths are crucial. They’re also handy for dealing with lube spills on the bedside table.” — Kerri, 32

Honey
Typically in my experience — and I know I’m going against public opinion here–foodstuffs and sex do not mix well. Too messy, too much potential to be silly (pineapple ring-around-the-penis, anyone?) and, if you’re dealing with dairy products, too much danger of them turning rancid and killing the mood.

The exception is honey. Deliciously tasty, it mixes well with bodily fluids and is easy enough to apply with a squeezy-bear bottle. It sweetens a kiss, is a treat on nipples or other sensitive bits and never turns foul, regardless of the room temperature. A couple words of caution: A little goes a long way… a lot will take you straight to the laundry room, do not pass GO. Also, because of the ultra-sticky consistency, honey works best if at least one partner — ideally both — landscapes the lawn.

A Vibrating Bullet
Regular vibrators can be intimidating, particularly as they suggest that perhaps the real thing is, ahem, superfluous. But a mini-vibe — a Magic Bullet, a tickler, whatever — can spice up the ol’ in-out, in-out in sooo many wonderful ways.

“I recommend the Rabbit vibe attachment. It’s fairly cute and discreet. It looks like it could be a kids’ toy and then you discover it’s really a clit tickler. It’s tiny, it’s stretchy, and it fits nicely around a penis. It has adjustable speeds and you can move it up or down or wherever you want it. An essential for a nasty girl.” — Lindsay, 24

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Body Freedom Exercise – Pleasure Points

Author: Al Link and Pala Copeland

Pleasure Points

Acupressure releases muscle tension and eliminates the toxins held in muscle tissue, enabling energy and blood to flow freely. As blood circulation increases, oxygen and other nutrients can nourish more areas of the body, naturally heightening your sensuality. Many of the same points that are therapeutic can also be used erotically. The Pleasure Point practices below are excellent erotic warm-ups for lengthy lovemaking.

Time for Exercise: 30 minutes to one hour

Properties Required: each other

How to apply pressure to the points:

• Use your fingertips to push straight down on the spot.

• Start softly and very gradually increase the pressure.
• Ask your partner to let you know when the pressure is right.
• Maintain the pressure for a minimum of one full minute, longer on spots your lover particularly enjoys.
• Most important is to focus fully on what you are doing and to send love through your touch.

Steps:

Pleasure Points for Women
She lies on her back. Work your way slowly and tantalizingly up her body with light, gentle caresses as you move from point to point.

1. Big toes, at the base of the nail, on the outer and inner corners—massage her feet first, then gently press these points.

2. The groin creases, where her thighs join the trunk of her body—put the heels of your palms in these creases and, with your fingertips lightly on her belly, slowly lean your weight forward.
3. Nipples—roll them in your fingers, gradually increasing speed and pressure, then suck them.
4. Sides of neck—gently nibble and suck on these highly erotic spots.
5. Sacrum (indentations at the base of her spine)—slide your hands under her body and, pressing into these spots with curved fingers, let her weight provide the pressure.
6. Belly, one to two inches below her navel and above the pubic bone—apply gentle pressure here with the palm of one hand as you begin to tickle her clitoris with the fingers of the other.

Pleasure Points for Men

He lies on his back. Use long, firm strokes on his flesh as you move from point to point.

1. Sacrum—straddle him and place your fingertips in the indentations at the base of his spine, allowing his weight to provide the pressure. This triggers nerves that reach into the genitals.

2. Belly—press your fingertips in a downward pointing straight line starting one to two inches below his navel and ending just above the pubic bone. Breathe in harmony together.
3. Pubic bone—place the heels of your hands on the pubic bone, fingertips on his belly, gradually lean your weight onto him. Encourage him to rock his pelvis as you press.
4. Groin creases, where his thighs join the trunk of his body—put the heels of your palms in these creases and, with your fingertips lightly on his belly, slowly lean your weight forward.
5. Inner thighs—slowly and firmly stroke his inner thighs from about halfway up his thigh all the way to the groin crease.
6. Perineum, between his testicles and his anus—with one hand gently push the tips of your fingers against his perineum at about the halfway point, slightly more towards the anus. With the other hand lightly stroke his penis.

About the Author:

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more info Visit www.tantra-sex.com, www.sexyspiritualrelationships.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com

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Deliver Screaming Orgasms Your Woman Will Love

Want to deliver screaming orgasms that will make your lover writhe in ecstasy.

Then hold on to your pants…

…The tips I am about to reveal will make her crave your body next to hers every single night.

Sounds too good to be true?

Try them out and see what happens.

When you want to give a woman an orgasm and make her body quake in pleasure you need to set up the mood. It’s not all about physical contact. You need to get her in the correct mind frame if she is going to orgasm. One simple way is to give her subtle reminders throughout the day. A dirty note in the morning before you set off too work and then a lunch time call and then a little whisper in her ear when you arrive home from work. Each little hint will start to paint pictures in her mind of what kind of pleasure she’ll receive at night.

Use a water based lubricant if you plan of fondling her magic button(clitoris)…When in the throes of intercourse, use positions which will allow you to twink the area around her clitoris with your hands and fingers. Apply a dab of the lubricant to your fingers to reduce irritation and friction.

If you plan on warming her up with some hot cunnilingus you should keep in mind to avoid making direct contact with her clitoris. It’s sensitive as you already know….so use her labia and the areas around it to stimulate her when you begin. One trick you should try is tracing circles around her clitoral hood with your tongue. It mimics the same movement she uses when she masturbates and it will drive her crazy.

Plan on using these tips soon if you want to give her the dynamic erotic experience she’s been waiting for you to deliver.

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