This is a question I find myself asking more frequently these days. Is anyone really honest to their lovers, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives, husbands or just anyone?

I ask this question because I catch myself lying regularily when there is no real reason to do so. Im not lying to protect myself, it just seems to be an automatic thing.

I think Stabilo may have something in their song “Flawed Design”. The lyrics seem to descibe what seems to be a common issue in so many people:

When I was a young boy
I was honest and I had more self-control
If I was tempted I would run
Then, when I got older
I began to lie to get exactly what I wanted
When I wanted it
- And I wanted it
Now, I’m having trouble differentiating
Between what I want
And what I need
To make me happy
So instead of thinking I just act
Before I have the chance to contemplate the
Consequences of action

And I will turn off
And I will shut down
Burying the voices of my conscience hitting ground
And I will turn off
And I will shut down
The chemicals are restless in my head

‘Cuz I lie
Not because I want to
But I seem to need to
All the time
Yeah, I lie
And I don’t even know it
Maybe this is
All a part of my flawed design

And ever since I figured out
That I could control other people
I’ve had trouble sleeping
With both eyes closed
And if I asked permission
If I make sure it’s ok
I promise I won’t slip up this time
You can trust me
But never take advice from someone
Who just admitted to being devious
Who just confessed to treason
And I would also never ask a question
That I cannot ask myself
For it might
Dirty up your conscience

‘Cuz I lie
Not because I want to
But I seem to need to
All the time
Yeah, I lie
And I don’t even know it
Maybe this is
All a part of my -

And how can you say those things
Why can’t you just believe?
And how can you say those things
And keep a straight face?
And how can you say those things
Why can’t you just believe?
And how can you say those things
And keep a straight face?

‘Cuz I lie
Not because I want to
But I seem to need to
All the time
Yeah, I lie
And I don’t even know it
Maybe this is
All a part of my -
‘Cuz I lie
And if I could control it
Maybe I could leave it all behind
Yeah, I lie
And I don’t even know it
Maybe this is all a part of my
Flawed design